Charlotte H Values and Guidelines
“We must not discriminate between things. Where things are concerned there are no class distinctions. We must pick out what is good for us where we can find it.” --Pablo Picasso
Any individual who has HSV1, HSV2, or HPV is welcomed to join this group. We realize that individuals in the group may form friendships or relationships and have falling outs or break-ups. However, the group, for the sake of its members, must remain impartial and supportive. We cannot alienate members due to personal differences or take sides due to popularity. Members within the group are expected to act maturely should conflicts arise so that all members can benefit from the support and friendship offered by the group.
“Respect is not fear and awe; it... [is] the ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his unique individuality. Respect, thus, implies the absence of exploitation. I want the loved person to grow and unfold for his own sake, and in his own ways, and not for the purpose of serving me.” --Erich Fromm
This group is founded on respect for one another. Therefore, members are expected to lift one another up instead of tearing each other down. Members are encouraged to provide a safe environment for one another, removing threat of harm, ridicule, slander, harassment, or animosity between one another.
“Nothing is quite as bad as being without privacy and lonely at the same time.”--Alexander Theroux
Due to the nature of this group, members are encouraged to value one another’s privacy. Should another member not wish his or her H-status be disclosed outside of the group, it is his or her wish that shall be granted. Personal issues between members will be handled off-line in a discreet manner.
“Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another "What! You too? I thought that no one but myself.”--C.S. Lewis
We have all had our ups and downs and but have at least ONE thing we know that binds us together. As a group of friends, we should work hard to love each other, forgive each other, and be there for each other. The goal is for no cry to go unheard, no solitude to go unbroken, and there be no circumstance where apathy replaces love.
With such a diverse group of people on this site, there are going to be conflicts between members. These situations are difficult to handle since this is a social and sometimes dating group. Therefore, the guidelines are different than they would often be in the work place. Here are some basic guidelines for successful interaction within the group:
Members and HTeam leaders shall heed the group values of Inclusion, Respect, Privacy, and Support. The discussion board will not be used to disrespect, insult, gossip or maliciously embarrass another member, the group or a non-member. Gossip regarding any members or group activity will not be tolerated.
HTeam leaders shall screen members on a minimal scale before allowing them into the group, but every member is responsible for his/her own actions and neither Charlotte H, nor the HTeam are responsible for another member's actions. HTeam leaders may be privy to personal information regarding various individuals within the group. While this information will not be discussed with others (member or non-member), the HTeam may use this information as necessary to protect others in the extreme situation that issues may arise.
Members shall use caution and common sense when dealing with one another. Treat members you meet on this site as you would a stranger you would meet in any other social setting. Don't let your guard down too soon and don't be too aggressive with someone who may need more time to feel comfortable. Be mature, responsible, truthful, and sincere adults. If another member contacts you, and you are not interested in continuing communication with them, first, tell them you are not interested in communicating with them anymore. Second, block or ignore this member. If the member continues to contact you through other means, please contact the group HTeam. Conversely, no members shall contact other members with the intent to harrass or cause trouble.
All group activities will be for H members only unless prior arrangements and discussions with the HTeam have taken place. The event host shall make event details clear in the case non-H members are attending.
We welcome periodic posts from other H groups advertising specific national events. However, for the health of our own membership, we feel that posts recruiting members into other H groups are inappropriate. The Charlotte HTeam have the discretion of rejecting or approving such posts as deemed necessary. To ensure that members do not receive spam, Charlotte H discourages and may also reject monetary or personal solicitations on the message board. In addition, if you would like to cross-advertise a group on our main website, please do so by making a request to HTeam@CharlotteH.com . We will review these requests individually and respond accordingly.
Any violation of these terms or those not specifically stated but implied in this document, can lead to suspension or exclusion from Charlotte H. All issues that escalate to this level will be handled confidentially and collectively by the HTeam leaders. Any situations dealing with true legal matters shall be handled through the appropriate courts of law. However, Charlotte H will comply with any requests made by the proper authorities.
-Values and Guidelines created in July 2006
-Third party solicitation policy added November 2006
-Solicitation policy added March 2009
-Updated "moderators" to HTeam (Who is the HTeam?)
Charlotte H, Inc. is incorporated as a non-profit organization in the state of North Carolina. You can click here to view the Charlotte H, Inc Bylaws which are the governing documents for Charlotte H. Please contact the Charlotte HTeam@CharlotteH.com if you have any questions. Thank you!